Life Isn’t Meant to Be “Handled”

I can change my mind.

I was not born with one set of thoughts and beliefs that was meant to stick with me forever.

I’ve always been so committed and loyal to everything I do that I would sooner walk the plank then not follow through with something. It’s been a long time coming but I think I’m starting to realize that it’s okay to change my mind.

As I get older I realize that people change, ideas change, and feelings change and that it’s ok.  I think I used to judge people (and probably still do) based on their inability to stick to their word.

Of course it still bothers me when someone tells me they are going to do something and then they don’t.  Commitments that involve me is one thing but just random, fleeting ideas that have nothing to do with with me shouldn’t be such a big deal.

So you wanted to do A at one point in time and you no longer want to… that’s okay.  So you thought about trying out B, you did, and you decided to give it up… who cares?

I wholeheartedly believe, and this belief has gotten me great things in life, that if I put my all into anything and approach it positively that I can make anything work for me.  If I don’t like something I’m doing I try to work harder, stay positive, or think flexibly about it and usually I can handle any situation.  But, what I don’t realize is when to quit.  When I don’t have to “handle it” anymore.  Why not move on to something else?  Why not try something new?

A couple weeks ago I wrote about not giving up when something gets tough but I guess there should always be a balance of commitment and letting go.

I think in 2014 I’m going to commit myself more to trying new things and, here’s the kicker, moving on if I want to.

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Danielle Clark

About Danielle Clark

I am 28 years old and for 5 years out of college I played basketball for a living. I was a professional basketball player in Europe so I spent most of my years there and came back to Maine for summers and a couple weeks at Christmas time. I thought my years there would open my eyes to what I want to be when I "grow up." That didn't happen. I have discovered, however, that I just have to try something. Just do things and toss myself into them. I have currently tossed myself into being a college basketball assistant coach and one on one reading tutor. I grew up in Corinna, Maine and have been a resident Mainer. I love sports, reading, writing, cooking, baking, watching movies... everything. I have lots of hobbies and not enough time in the day!