—originally posted on my previous blog page September 30th, 2011.
My friends would say I’m a go-getter. If I want (blank), then I’m going to do everything I can to get it. If I say I’m going to (blank), then I will. I don’t give up easily. My only problem seems to be figuring out what (blank) is.
Last night I was reading an article in SELF magazine about goals and how one should really have a plan for life. “If you don’t devise a plan, you may end up living by default, letting things happen TO you, instead of making them happen,” said one of the contributors. I decided I really don’t want other people dictating my life but I started thinking about my goals (Do I have any?) and realized my main goal should be, “find my passion.” Because, if you don’t know what you want, how can you really go after it?
The writer had little steps to get you thinking about goals so I thought I would give it a whirl. First of all, they wanted you to acknowledge and write down the goals that you have already actually attained. After thinking for a few minutes and worrying that all of the things I’ve done have just “happened” to me, I finally started spitting out some things I was proud of; climbing Katahdin with a positive attitude, driving cross country, starting my blog just to name a few recents. Looking at them I realized the hardest part about them was thinking about starting them!
Next she told readers to brainstorm goals by looking at the things you haven’t completed, skills you’d like to learn, and ways you want to give back. Turns out I do have some goals– however small scale or vague they may be.
Here are a few:
Fall in love and be fallen in love with (preferably the same person at the same time on each end of this goal).
Go sky diving (just writing that scares the crap out of me)
Do a 1/2 Marathon (baby steps…)
Do the commentating for a basketball game
Buy a house and a camp on a lake.
Own a big dog, and a cappuccino machine
See a UNC/Duke basketball game
In the ten minutes alotted I came up with 44 things I want to do before I die (sounds cooler than “goals”, I guess). They say long term goals should be broken down into the short term and making a plan, or a list, is a good way to get the process moving.
Perfect, I thought. I’m a big planner. Even if only in my head, I always have an idea of my daily plan, things I want to get done. But when I think about planning for something one to five years from now it kind of scares me. Like, how can I plan for something five years from now when I don’t even know where I will be living in six months? I mean, shouldn’t you have a home base? Well, the article says the first step is to confide in someone, “broadcasting your goals to friends (Facebook counts) can help you achieve them as well.” So, blog audience, consider yourself broadcasted to!
Other goals I came up with:
Take a photography class
Really learn to play piano and/or guitar
Go to a Sox/Yankees game
Go to Australia
Go on a date
Visit my “family” in Spain
Learn to french braid
Volunteer at an animal shelter
Get my teaching certificate